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Not having to worry
A word of warning: this is not a positive blog post.
If you’re looking for a pick-me-up from me today, stop reading right now. Because this is real, unapologetic and potentially annoying to some. You’ve been warned.
I need to motivate myself out of a major rut right now. I just want to give up, give up with everything, not necessarily business, but just stop fighting against conditions, disease and illness.
For just one day be completely free from worry, strategic thinking, dosages, numbers, potentially killing medication, watching every step I take… Just to be free.
Not to worry about finger pricks, insulin delivery or misinterpreting having to pee as high blood sugar. Not having to worry about whether that food contains gluten, grains, sugar, lactose, casein, soy, caffeine, or that one, yet unidentified ingredient, that still makes me feel like shit from time to time.
Not having to worry about what it is that makes my skin darken and itch like crazy. But hey, at least it’s not cancer, right?!
Not hang to think “wait, did I bring…?” or “do I have X with me?”. Not having to worry about how I’ll pay the next medical bill, the next pharmacy visit or the supplements that make me healthier, but aren’t covered by my health insurance. Not having to worry about whether or not I’ll be alive in 10 years.
Not having to worry about what my next health-increasing step could/should/has to be in order for me to live until I’m old and wrinkly. Not having to worry about what other people think. It’s easy to ignore, sure, but it doesn’t mean you can’t see their judgement/feeling sorry for you/thinking you’re crazy.
Not having to worry about if tomorrow is a “good day” or not. Will I be able to do the things I’ve planned to? Not having to worry about that long distance flight you want to do one day (sure, of course I can travel far. It just takes half a village to figure out how to organise, dose and calculate it)
Not having to worry about your family, parents and near and dear ones worrying about you. Not having to worry about taking a longer walk than I had initially planned to, without it having a major impact on my blood glucose levels. Not having to worry about passing out or collapsing in the street.
Not having to worry about my blood pressure, blood sugar, thyroid, kidneys, eyes, nerves on a daily basis. Not having to worry about what that feeling cold feeling is? Low blood sugar? My digestion kicking in? My thyroid? Or is it just cold in here?
Not having to worry. Just to forget the sometimes gut wrenching, bring-me-to-tears worry. For one day. That’s all I ever want for Christmas, ever. (Yes, even in March) It’s almost as if having a chronic condition brings a friend to the party too. A friend that just won’t leave. Meet Mr. Constant Worry. He’s a blast (not).
The amount of thoughts and worries that go through a person with a (few) chronic condition(s) is staggering. I wonder why this isn’t even considered by most doctors, who will give you very static advice on how to handle certain situations. But it’s up to you to remember to do them, too. Even if you know they won’t work, it’s worth it to scoop together that last bit of energy to try, because, who knows, it might work? Chronic conditions, at least very many, if not all, are incredibly dynamic and ever-changing, making sure to keep you on your toes and that you never have enough success to get cocky.
Ok, so this has been a shit week. I feel frustrated, angry and disappointed. These things happen, it’s part of the fascination with these things. Now I have to look forward and remind myself of all the amazing things I have that I’m so incredibly grateful for.
Lastly, if you want to read a less negative and more objective article on the topic of Type 1 Diabetes, I encourage you to read THIS. A fantastically well written article, well worth reading.
Thank you for listening.
Ps. Wow, I should really take my own advice sometimes. How very fitting last weeks post is for me this week!
Motivation for the long run – 10,5 tips for when the going gets tough
I’ve been there countless times before.
And so have you, I bet.
That second it takes for all your motivation to just run off of you, leaving you feeling tired, hopeless and in a general state of “why bother”-ness.
Motivation, you little rascal, why can’t you just stay put and be my life long partner, but have to run away from me like a fart in the wind?
It doesn’t matter whether you need to motivate yourself through a boring meeting, a doctor’s visit, or perhaps even something more long-term, like keeping a chronic disease at bay or a new, healthier life style. You motivation still needs to be there to get. You. Through. It.
I’ve been thinking a lot about motivation and how to keep it going lately. And I’ve figured out the following 10,5 points that often make it or break it:
#1: What’s your destination?
First steps first: you need to identify where it is you want to go. What’s your destination, and why do you want to go there
Without a clearly defined direction, it’s going to be difficult to succeed. Getting lost in trying to accomplish a goal is very easily done, killing your motivation and eventually your whole journey.
#2: Write down your goals
I do this with all my one-on-one coaching clients. It’s actually part of the very first things we do together.
Having finished step 1 of this list, immediately write it down. I don’t care if it’s on your bathroom mirror with a lip pen, just write it down and see it in front of you. Also write WHY you want to reach your goal.
And keep whatever you wrote your goal down on in your sight, don’t put it away between unpaid bills and important (?) notes you’ll never look at again. It’s a physical reminder of what you want to achieve and why you want to achieve it when your mind tells you other things. (Or your ego is trying to keep you safe in your comfort zone. Just don’t forget that it’s OUTSIDE your comfort zone where the unicorns, rainbows and fairies hang out!)
#3: Your progress: track it!
If you have a long(er) term goal, progress can be pretty slow, especially if you’re a little impatient. Like me.
The only point of comparison you really have, is how far you’ve come from the beginning, or even a few months ago. This motivates even the most stubborn person, and keeps them going for at least a couple more hours/days/weeks/months.
How did you feel, let’s say 2 months ago? Worse or better than today? How will you feel in another two months? Double as good? Go for it!
#4: Remember your WHY
Does this sound familiar: “why am I even doing this? I don’t even care. It would be SO easy to just quit.”
Your queue now is: remembering why you are doing this. This is why writing down your goals (and why you want them) is SO important! Then you have a physical reminder of what your motivation was from the beginning, easy to look and think: “ah, yes, THIS is what I want!”
The person you are today will not be the same as you in half a year, a year, or five. That’s why your reminder of how bad you felt, and how much you wanted (and needed) to succeed. Get back on that bandwagon and don’t lose sight of your goal!
#5: Attitude is key
Are you being positive or negative about your goal and reaching it?
Positivity takes you a lot further than thinking things like “I can’t”, “I shouldn’t” or “I won’t”. Change those baddies to thoughts like “I want to”, “I will” and “I can”!
This is truly pep talk in its highest form, talking yourself out of a rut. No one knows you better than yourself, so you know exactly which buttons to press to make you feel better (and worse, but that’s not the point!)
#6: Take a break
Sometimes taking a break is all you need to keep going. It’s a bit of a paradox, but it really works.
If you feel run down, energy-less, and all you want to do is stay in bed and watch crappy tv shows, then do that! It might be exactly what your mind, body and soul need to wake up happy again.
Don’t run yourself into the ground. It’s just not worth it.
#7: Change up your routine
Whether it is in the kitchen or on your (daily) workouts you’re stuck, a few simple changes might just give you a little more spirit to keep going.
You could eat something you normally label “lunch food” for breakfast. Or try a few new recipes. Or do your normal workout backwards (as in: the order of it, I’m not suggesting you walk backwards or anything silly like that…)
Changing things up gives you a new challenge, and gets you out of your rut.
#8: See the bigger picture
Sometimes just taking a step back and looking at your situation from a distance can help your motivation to soar.
If you’re feeling down about making one particular meal “perfectly healthy”, for example, it’s good to look at it in the grand scheme of things. How were your other meals this week? At least semi-healthy? Well then. No biggie, really.
#9: Surround yourself with support
Being social when your motivation is in the dumps can be a challenge in itself. But oh-soh-important.
If you can’t dig yourself out of the rut, meet with, or speak to people that lift you up.
Avoid the ones that might push you down, though. Don’t let other people demotivate you, or let them rain on your parade.
Who do you feel fantastic after seeing or talking to them? Who is your biggest cheerleader? Is there a person who can keep you accountable AND cheer you on? GREAT, lucky you!
#9,5: Same, same but different
Find people in the same situation as you.
They can very often help keep you motivated, answer questions if you have any and share experiences. Sometimes people who aren’t in your particular situation just don’t get it. And they never will. That’s why a support network of likeminded people keep your motivation going.
I personally love internet forums for this (yep, geek!). Google around on your situation (or chronic disease), and I’m certain you’ll find tons of other people with the same issues, thoughts and victories as you that are ready to cheer you on.
In the end, and here is tip
#10: you need your heart
If your heart isn’t in it, the change you’re trying to make or the goal you’re trying to achieve, it’s going to be just that incredibly much harder.
Your motivation will go away quickly, and all you’ll be left with is feeling like a burned match. This goes hand-in-hand with setting goals for yourself and not because someone else “thinks” you should.
Believe me, the amount of times I’ve tried to change something without my heart in it, or because of someone else, just for it to go back to the good old ways again, is actually mind bogging.
What motivates you to keep going? What goal are you working towards right now?
Do you have any tips to add on to the list?
Broccoli Salad Recipe
I have to be honest here.
I didn’t come up with this completely on my own. I got the idea from one of my friends, when I went to her house for a big dinner. (Thanks Jen!) But I’ve developed it a bit further!
Some of you have asked for this recipe on different social media channels, and now, here it is!
Raw Broccoli Salad
You’ll need:
1 broccoli (depending on how hungry, or how many you are this varies)
6 slices of bacon
1 pomegranate (seeds) (you can also buy these ready, a lot less hassle!)
Olive oil
Fresh lemon juice
Salt
Pepper
Do this:
1.Cut the bacon into small pieces and fry it until crisp
2. Grate the broccoli (or you can use a blender, just don’t blend it too much)
3. Mix the soaked off bacon with the broccoli and the pomegranate seeds
4. Mix olive oil, a squeeze of lemon juice, salt and pepper and pour it over the salad.
5. Enjoy it as a side dish or on its own!
If you have digestive issues with raw broccoli, I suggest you blanch it first (drop it in boiling water for just a minute) and let it dry slightly before making this yummy salad. Doing this makes it a lot softer on the stomach. The taste becomes a little less “fresh” and if you don’t let it dry enough, it can become a little watery.
You can also substitute the pomegranate for raisins or other dried fruits. The carbohydrate count does increase then, so keep that in mind. And pomegranates are super healthy, they are packed with good things that make your body run smoothly.
I’ve also made something extra for you: CLICK HERE: Broccoli_salad to get the recipe as a printable file! I’ve also added the nutritional information on the PDF.
Please let me know in the comments below what you think! Is it a good salad? Will you be making it again?
Going off wheat (or grains)? 5 points to consider.
- First off, as you’re cutting down on the amount of carbohydrates from grains/wheat you’re currently eating, it might leave you feeling a little worse for the first few days. Some call this the “carb-flu”, because that’s what it can feel like, the beginning of a flu. This is because your body is detoxing from the highly addictive grains/wheat you’ve been eating. It’s nothing to worry about, please don’t give up, you’re doing yourself an awesome favour. You’ll get to your improved, chirpier self in no time, I promise.
- Because you’ll be eating less of one particular thing, it’s important to fill the space with other things. I’d recommend to seriously up the amount of vegetables and fruits you eat daily.
- Instead of those carbs you’re cutting out, choose great sources of fat (avocado, salmon, nuts, seeds, olives, olive oil, coconut…), as they will keep you satisfied for longer and still make up your calorie count. And nope, fat doesn’t make you fat, as long as it’s good fat.
- Your body also needs protein. This is what your body builds and repairs itself off of (well the amino acids). If you eat meat, keep doing so with a good conscience. If not, you need to add some source of protein, perhaps a protein shake as part of a meal or a snack? (I’d recommend a raw protein powder made from hemp, for example)
- So, what is left for you to eat, then? Here are some simple ideas:
- Instead of bread, you can use bell peppers as a sandwich. Cut one in half, remove the core, fill up with your favourite sandwich fillings and enjoy. Or just eat the sandwich toppings with a side of vegetables. You can also try your baking skills with my awesome non-wheat non-grain bread recipe, found HERE.
- Instead of pasta, use “zoodles” or zucchini noodles. Takes about 5 minutes to prepare, and is easier with a julienne cutter. Fry them lightly in some olive oil. The texture is almost the same, the taste is a lot fresher. Or spaghetti squash (how to cook it). It can be made well in advance and just heated up when needed. Use with your favourite pasta sauce (mine is hands-down green pesto. YUM!)And don’t forget about things like potatoes, sweet potatoes, yams and plantains. Gluten and grain free for sure, but just quite high in carbs, so if you’re watching your carb intake, be a little careful.
- If you’re going wheat/gluten free but don’t see the point in going fully grain free, you have tons of alternatives left: quinoa, rice, amaranth, buckwheat, corn, sorghum and oats, if they’re declared gluten free.
- One word: SALADS! Not the puny little green side salad, but a proper one filled with cheese, egg, ham, chicken, avocado… It will keep you full for long. And steer clear of pasta salads. There’s nothing healthy there.
- You may need to find new places to buy lunch, for example. Depending on where you live, and your determination, there are always places that are happy to help you get onto a healthier journey. You just have to find them.Ask restaurants to replace any wheat/grain/carby side order with vegetables. I haven’t found a restaurant yet that doesn’t do this. And order those hamburgers without the bun!
- Another idea is to sign up below this post to get my 11 healthy and healing recipes for free – guaranteed both gluten and grain free!
8 Foods to Seriously Avoid
One of the questions I get a lot is “what foods should I avoid?”
The concept of avoiding food is technically nothing I’m a fan of, as that would make it a diet (shrug) and not a way of eating.
But this list makes a comprehensive summary of foods I rather leave alone, and would rather see you leave alone, too.
1. Sugar
(Surprise, surprise!)
Examples: Juice, soda, cookies, candy – all the stuff you know is bad for you but sometimes eat anyway.
Why: I’m not sure this needs a longer explanation anymore… Overconsumption of sugar is linked to obesity, inflammation and even cancer. And it’s seriously addictive. Is this really something you want your body to have available when it comes to running the machine?
2. Grains, especially Gluten
Examples: Bread, pasta, crackers. Anything with flour actually. Beer. But also unexpected sources of it, like some chocolates and ice cream.
Why: Gluten is the protein, the “glue” that holds the bread etc together. It can cause huge allergic reactions in people who have celiac disease, or are sensitive to gluten. But also people who aren’t clinically allergic to it should watch out, it’s been linked to things like Alzheimer’s, ADD/ADHD and inflammation. If you have a auto-immune disease, it can many times be improved by taking away gluten from your diet.
3. Dairy from cow’s milk
Examples: yoghurt, cheese, milk, creme fraiche, cottage cheese…
Why: Cow’s milk is the most tampered with food source there is – it’s heated up, cooled down, things added, vitamins removed, then re-added… Bleugh. What is left is nothing like raw cow’s milk that the calf gets from its mother.
Which brings me to another point; even in raw cow’s milk, there are a lot of growth hormones. The calf has to grow into a big cow one day as well. But this growth hormone can also make us and our cells grow (especially cancerous ones). Not to mention all the health problems the cow may have had while giving the milk, that would have been treated with antibiotics, steroids and other medications.
If you can’t live without cheese, like me, for example, goat’s cheese and sheep’s cheese are much better alternatives. They haven’t been as modified, because the production isn’t on the same scale as cows (yet, at least!).
4. Trans Fats
Examples: Anything labelled “hydrogenated” or “partially hydrogenated”.
Why: It’s chemically processed fats! They wreak havoc in your body and can seriously mess with your cholesterol levels. Although cholesterol levels are reducing in importance at the moment, trans fats are still not anything you want in your system.
5. Seed- and vegetable oils
Examples: canola, sunflower, soybean… oils.
Why: Are mega 3 fatty acids important to a healthy body? Heck yes. Well, these lovelies ( ? ) contain so much Omega 6 fatty acids that the ever-so-important ratio between the two is completely thrown off-balance. In a simplified version, you could say that Omega 6 increases inflammation responses in your body, while Omega 3 lowers them.
Please choose other forms of oil, like avocado, walnut or olive oil. And top up those Omega 3’s to be sure, by eating more (wild caught) salmon, or by supplementing with krill oil, for example.
6. “Low fat” foods
Examples: yoghurt, cheese, cereals, candy, sodas.
Why: sometimes pictures say more than food, so this one will have to be described by a picture:
7. Processed foods
Examples: (microwaveable) ready meals, “if it looks like it comes from a factory rather than a farm”
Why: It does go hand in hand with the previous point – it’s a load of chemicals mixed together for your pleasure. Or not. too many calories, too little nutrition. Wouldn’t it be better to just eat some real food that will leave you satisfied and well fed instead of eating a meal that leaves you hungry again within the hour?
8. Artificial Sweeteners
Examples: sucralose, aspartame, saccharin…
Why: You may think they’re good for your blood glucose levels, because it doesn’t raise them, right? Well, while that may be true, the fact is that they mess up the rest of your metabolism instead.
If you absolutely have to, have to use a sweetener, use stevia. Or honey, real, raw honey in small dosages won’t kill you.
BONUS TIP:
Even on “health foods”, you have to carefully read the label to see that it doesn’t contain any of your undesired ingredients. There are always difference in opinion on what should go into a food or not, so you’re always better off just to check what is actually in it.
Have you heard of any other foods you “should” avoid? Let me know in the comments below and I can help you confirm or debunk that myth!
(Idea from Kris Gunnars, an excellent writer on all things healthy food.)